I know in my blog I have some great ideas, or at least I think they are great. I have never thought of my blog as a how to. I have never thought of me as someone qualified to tell you how to do anything, positive anyway.
One thing that I struggle with and write a lot about is death and loss. If I could teach you anything it would be how to hold onto the grief way too long. I have lost some of the most influential people in my life and I hurt for them everyday. In a lot of the situations I still tear up when I think about them. People say give it time but in all honesty one of them has been gone 30 years.
In Matthew 5:4 it says “blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted. ” Biblical scholars, men much smarter than me say that “mourn” isn’t to mourn for the dead but to be oppressed, I say that the loss of someone you love leads to a feeling that is on its easiest day akin to oppression. So to them I would say we are both correct.
I handle my grief as best as I can, where I find much discomfort is seeing the people I love going through the pain of loss. To watch a friend lose someone they care about hurts my heart as much as if it were my loved one that had gone. I can cope, I can put the pain away for today, I can and will be ok, what if they won’t?
With that being said I am looking for some help. I need someone to lead me down the road to the how to. I have some ideas but would love help to finish. First of all as in all things let’s start with prayer. Telling someone you’re praying for them is great let’s go the step past that and actually pray. Pray for them right then, sometimes the thing they need most is to hear you talk to God so they know you’re standing in the gap. After prayer be there for them, be their strength when they have none left, be the light they are looking for in that dark hole they seem to be sinking in to. Lastly and in my opinion the most important is to LOVE them. Love them unconditionally, they may snap at you they may lash out but they are hurting. We sometimes abandon people when they need us most because the situation becomes too real. Don’t let a season of loss separate you from someone who needs you.
If you’re going through loss and you need me I’m here, if you’re not and you need me I’m still here. Never be afraid to reach out for a life line. If you need me call me, text me, email me.
I am sorry for your struggle, I am sorry for your hurt, I am sorry for your loss. I am here, and I love you.
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