Dedication

I try to write about the things that influence my life. The good, the bad, the happy, the scary, the inspirational, and the heartbreaking. I have written about fighting to be better, to have more, and to get what you want no matter what. I have noticed that I have never written about what to do when you have it.

Life for me is about goals. Setting them just out of reach and working harder and harder everyday until I can see that goal in the rear view mirror. In the work world this is a very useful quality. There is rarely a task left undone when it is set as my goal. I will move mountains to put this goal again in my rear view. There is not often anything that could stop me.

In other parts of this adult life we live it is not so beneficial. When I decide I want something I will stop at nothing to achieve it. I often am less concerned with others feelings and what happens in the process. It may come across as me treating people like pawns in a game that I am playing. It may cause them to get hurt in the process or feel like once I have gotten what I want they are no longer important. Like the chase is more important than them being a part of my life, my story, my future.

What often gets overlooked in the pursuit of the goal is the dedication required after the fact to maintain. Goal driven people are sometimes rough, gruff, and impersonal. They are often dismissed by people for not having true feelings, for not loving, for treating everything as a contest. Some of us goal oriented people are the most loving, caring, forgiving, and truly dedicated people on the planet. Just because we would rip the gates off of hell to achieve our goal to get what we desire doesn’t mean it is a game, it doesn’t mean we are just trying to prove we can do it. We are truly dedicated to keeping what we have in relationships and work. Being in a relationship will often seem more difficult but don’t give up on us. If gaining your affection was our goal then we truly do want to you to be in our life.